i don't know why but i feel that guys nowadays are so sentimental???

hahaa!

EXAMPLES...

1) i have a guy friend. his girlfriend just suddenly disappeared. and i think she has probably moved on. but he's still thinking about her, and hoping for a miracle.

2) i have another guy friend. his girlfriend was suddenly cold to him and shortly, announced a breakup. she has since 2 other boyfriends. and my guy friend just continued trying to chase her back for like, 1 year already! he's giving up on her already, and trying hard to move on. and ya, he's still trying hard to fall in love with somebody else.

3) another guy friend. his parents and his girlfriend's parents are against their relationship. this happened years ago. anyway, the girl decided to break up. and the guy agreed. but he still keeps their pictures, and still look at them once in awhile.


do you think that's sweet?

maybe guys are not so cold-hearted like we think they are after all.

sometimes when i see how my brother and male cousins talk about the girls they truly love, i do find myself wondering about my guy friends and my father. do they think of their loved ones like that?

because these guys have nothing but good things to say about the girl, even though sometimes i do think the girls are like, BITCHES. hahaha! 

i was having prata at Alif today with Junqiang and Sham.

and i overheard the next table's conversation.

Guy A: you know, let me tell you something very true. This is told to me by my friend. and i tell you it's damn true. he said, "in a breakup, the girl seems to move on faster than the guy. and break up means break up. she becomes cold towards the guy, and no matter what the guy do after that, it is useless. but guys, after the breakup, they still think about the girl." this is damn true man! i'm still thinking about her! but i can't seem to chase her back, no matter what i do. haiz...

Guy B: ya totally...i know what you mean.

Guy A: why are girls like that! haiz....


woo~~~

hahahaah!

the guys look to be around Junqiang's age by the way. and they speak intelligently. they are not those emo secondary school kids ok.

so what am i trying to say?


seems like the world has changed.


do you know about the Ang Mo Kio tragedy?

the one where the Father strangled his 2 kids to death, set fire on his flat, and jumped down from the top floor?

it was suspected that he was distraught because he learned about his wife's extra-marital affair.


it is sad!

there are more and more cases like that i think.

where girls are more prone to having affairs now as compared to guys.


i feel that the tables have been turned.

karma seems to be working.

in the past, it's always always ALWAYS the guy you hear that have the extra-marital affair.

ok, i don't know about other countries, but in asian countries, where it was common for the wife to stay at home and be a good housewife, it was common to hear about the guy straying outside.

and the guy would always say hurtful things like, "look at yourself, yellow-faced woman! why would i want to love you anymore?? you should see Annie ( or whoever is the woman out there )! she's young, has soft skin, beautiful face and figure, and she calls my name so sweetly!"

something like that.

guys used to be proud bastards like that.

hahaha!

you hear about these proud bastards like that years later, suddenly poor with no money and no lovely Annie.

and probably the wife, by that time, she has worked hard. earned some money for herself. the children she took care of had grown up, and are usually in University or has a high-flying career, and will take good care of her.

the wife might even run a small business and is more capable than before.

the guy may have become a lousy alcoholic, trying to escape from reality.


so what is the thing that haven't changed?


i think women are actually stronger than men? deep inside them, they seem to have the determination and strength to take matters into their own hands, and carve a new path for themselves when their marriage fails.

but you know what...

i think most women don't know they have this strength in them. and i think it's sometimes better not to know. women can be too strong for their own good.

i wish men can let women rely on them more.

really really BE A MAN.

it's nice to know that men are more sentimental nowadays.

but too much of it is just plain sissy.

i don't know what advice i want to give and what's my point.

but right now, i just feel that it's hard being a guy.

what do girls really want?

sometimes we don't even know!

i just think,

that it's pretty important to have someone you can rely on at the end of the day.

a relationship, more than love and lust only, is about supporting each other?

like, when the guy have problems at his work or in the army, i think the girlfriend's role is to show him that it's ok, she loves him. tell him that she knows he can do it. she'll always be there for him. she believes in him. then cook him a nice dinner and calm and comfort him.

likewise, when the girl has problems. usually it's emotional problems. it's good for the guy to hug her and tell her she's beautiful. cuddle her, surprise her, listen to her, plan an exciting date to keep her mind off those problems she herself creates in her mind.

sounds easy and natural.

but it's hard when any one of the two become self-centered in the relationship.

you're in a relationship right now?

good luck working things out.

it can be very rewarding. :)

I'm sorry!

The previous "Horoscope Study" entry is put under "Friends Only" now. I've only have one more horoscope to analyse and that's it.

Tell you the truth ok...

Actually when I was about to publish my entry last night, my internet connection went down, and i thought, "what the hell! arghhh forget it. probably nobody will care about horoscopes anyway" and i shut down my comp.

i got a shock of my life when i see the post appearing on my blog this morning.

HAHAHAHA!

well anyway!

i'm glad that the post got so many interested feedback!

i study a lot about horoscopes, and maybe sometime in my freetime, i will do some simple analyses for everyone which you can check on their own. it's fun, right? always nice to know a  little more about yourself and what you are good at. sometimes you just need answers to those probing questions. you need a direction in life, but you have no idea if your decision is wise.

i personally think horoscopes can be helpful in these aspects! even if it turns out untrue in the end, usually pretty good advice is suggested, and there's no harm trying solutions that work best for your personality and circle, right?




i'm going to sleep soon.

i just wanted to blog about this lovely dream i had last night.

i dreamt that i went to some kind of school in Japan to study some course.

Their modules are really interesting. Every day, every period, you do something different.

Like, "Dance in Sweet Lolita Costumes", "Seduction Police Course" ( whatever that means ), "Singing lesson with XX" (some famous singing instructor), "Street Hip Hop Lessons", "How to smile the Perfect Smile".

very funny right!

but let me cut straight to the point.

During one of the lessons ( i remember it's a singing lesson ), a cute guy stood beside me. My definition of a cute guy is, skinny, fair, quiet, stable. So scrap that image of a smiling, tanned, sunshine-y, muscular kind of guy off your mind please.

So anyway, that guy. Halfway through the lesson, he suddenly held my hand!!!

i was super shocked and I pulled my hand away. I asked him, "Why on earth did you do that for?"

and he just replied calmly, "oh. you are not comfortable with it?"

and i was of course not comfortable with it. but he made it sound like it's normal in that campus to hold hands with people you like, out of the blue. hahaha!

i can't remember what happened after that. but there was another scene where he helped me with something. like helped me pick up my books or something. and i was so touched.

but you know, i believe the guy is not the focus of the dream. it's the feeling i had when he held my hand.



it's the same feeling i had when a person i was crazily in love with held my hand for the first time.

i've said this a lot of times before to my friends...

holding hands mean so much to me, greater than a hug or a kiss.

there is much more comfort in holding your loved one's hand when you walk along the streets together; when you are cold; when you are scared; when you are in love with him.


that's all for today.

i just want to say how much i like feeling warmth from the person i love.

good night!!


P.S. oh ya! i finally understand why i was happy after i woke up. i feel very very loved in the dream! i hope i dream sweet dreams like that all the time. Sweetest dreams to everyone reading this! Good night!